Archive for July, 2012

Elder Abuse Information

What is Elder abuse?

Elder abuse, or the abuse of older adults, is often defined as any act or omission that harms a senior or jeopardizes his or her health or welfare. The World Health Organization defines abuse of older adults as “a single or repeated act, or lack of appropriate action, occurring in any relationship where there is an expectation of trust that causes harm or distress to an older person”. Elder abuse can take place in the home, in other residential settings, or in the community. It is estimated that between four and ten per cent of Ontario ’s seniors experience some type of abuse.

Ontario Taking Action To Stop Elder Abuse

McGuinty Government Makes Historic Investment In  Safer Communities for Seniors

June 2009

Ontario  is taking steps to help eliminate elder abuse by providing, for the first time  in the province’s history, annual operating funding for prevention initiatives.

The province is investing $900,000 annually to provide the  Ontario Network for the Prevention of Elder Abuse (ONPEA) with long-term  stability to better assist victims of elder abuse in communities across the  province.  ONPEA delivers such services  as the Seniors’ Safety Line, in partnership with the Assaulted Women’s Help  Line, which offers support to victims of elder abuse 24 hours per day, seven  days per week, in more than 150 languages.

This funding will bring the government’s total investment in  elder abuse prevention since 2003 to more than $4.2 million.

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Ontario Combats Elder Abuse

Ontario’s Strategy to Combat Elder Abuse is the first of its kind in Canada.  Learn more

Senior Safety Line

The Senior Safety Line provides information, referrals, and support 24 hours a day, seven days a week, in over 150 languages.  The hotline is a toll-free, confidential resource for seniors suffering abuse, including financial, physical, sexual and mental abuse and neglect.  Toll-free: 1-866-299-1011 begin_of_the_skype_highlighting              1-866-299-1011     end_of_the_skype_highlighting
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Elder Abuse Awareness

On June 15th, Ontario will join a number of jurisdictions across Canada and around the world in marking World Elder Abuse Awareness Day (WEAAD).
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Policy and Program Lens

The Prevention of Elder Abuse Policy and Program Lens, through an easy-to-use checklist format, provides a standardized approach to assessing policies, practices, and programs on the prevention, detection and response to elder abuse.
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In many shamanic societies, if you came to a shaman or medicine person complaining of being disheartened, dispirited, or depressed, they would ask one of four questions.
When did you stop dancing? When did you stop singing? When did you stop being enchanted by stories? … When did you stop finding comfort in the sweet territory of silence? Where we have stopped dancing, singing, being enchanted by stories, or finding comfort in silence is where we have experience the loss of soul.
Dancing, singing, storytelling, and silence are the four universal healing salves.
~ Gabrielle Roth

Music that Helps us get through difficult times

Music is a tool that can be used to help with healing.

Here are some helpful questions to ask:

1. Could I ask you some questions about the music that helps you get through difficult times?

2. Is there a particular song that is helpful or calming for you?

a. What is the name of the song?

b. Who is the particular musician/singer/group?

c. Is it the lyrics, beat or  music that is calming?

d. When did this song become significant to you? (childhood,someone introuduced etc)

3. Why does this song particularly resonate for you and touch your life?

4. Are there certain words or phrases that are meaningful for you?

5. What values do you hold precious in this song?


Outsider Witness:

What stood out to you in hearing X talk about music/song?

Do you know why this stood out to you? Is there something in your own life that resonated?


Taken from Angel Yeun Summer Narrative Therapy Intensive July 2012.

Healing Tips

If you are having a flashback, you know that this is happening, try some things on this list. If one doesn’t work, try another one. They are designed to break a trance state and get you back in touch with the present.

Tips for containing a flashback:

blink hard, then blink again.

change your body position

breathe slowly and deeply

go to a safe place

say your name out loud

drink a glass of ice water

tell someone what you need.

move vigorously to release energy

name people or objects in the room

hold something that is comforting

listen to a tape/DVD or i pod of something soothing

make tea,

call a friend

eat a snack

jump up and down, wave arms

make eye contact with your pet

clap your hands

breathe deeply

wash your face

g0 outside for fresh air

Repeat to yourself ” I am safe”

Common After Effects of Sexual Assault

During a sexual assault, the most common reaction is fear of physical violence and/or death. After a sexual assault, the following after effects may occur:




self blame







sleep disturbances

eating disturbances/pattern changes


muscle tension/aches

feelings of powerlessness

lack of concentration

fear of being alone

decrease in self esteem

decrease trust in others

What a Friend Can Do

When you find out that someone has been sexually assaulted, your reaction can be important to her/his recovery. It may be difficult to understand how something like this could have happened, but it is important to believe and support her/him. Sometimes it is hard to know what to say or do to help. You might fear you’ll say something wrong.

1. Respect her/his right to privacy.Let her/him be in control of who she/he wants to tell. You should not repeat her/his story unless specifically asked to.

2. Let her/him know they are not to blame. Don’t place the responsibility for the assault on the vicitm.  Use positive phrases and open ended questions.

3. Put your feelings aside. It is difficult to listen to the hurt, anger and pain that someone close to you is having without feeling that way too. It is important that you talk about these feelings with someone else because it is difficult enough for the individual to deal with their feelings without having to deal with your feelings as well.

4. Do not confront the offender. The victim may fear for your safety as well as her own. Put your energy into supporting the victim.

5. Let her know you care and want to help. Listen carefully and respond to the person’s needs. Let the individual decide what they want from you. If they do not want to talk about the assault don’t assume that it is forgotten about or it is over. Ask the person how they feel once in awhile. It will take time to heal.


Principles of Personal Power

All Human beings are capable of growing and changing their behaviour.

You are the only one who can produce growth or change in attitudes and behaviour within yourself.

You have the power to produce any growth or change in behaviour in yourself that you want.

You can not make anyone else grow or change their behaviour.

You can facilitate and support the growth or behavioural changes another chooses through your relationship with them.